Emotional intelligence

Facial expressions

Research has established the universality of facial expressions of emotion and existence of microexpressions. Emotion is the basis of human motivation and the seat of emotion is in the face. According to APA facial expressions are reliably associated with certain emotional states. The “universality studies” demonstrated high cross-cultural agreement in judgements of emotion in faces by people in both literate and preliterate cultures. Single emotion cannot be modified or concealed. Microexpressions occur whenever an individual is alone or with family and close friends. These are easily noted if a person knows what to look for as these go on and off the face in a fraction of a second autonomously. These are very fast and if you blink your eyes you would miss them. Microexpressions are considered likely signs of concealed emotions and may be signs of processes that occurring with great speed in unconcealed emotional states. Facial actions result involuntarily even if one tries to control the expressions.

The pyramidal tract of human brain drives voluntary facial actions because of cortical motor strip while the extrapyramidal tract involuntary emotional expressions due to subcortical areas. In an intensely emotional situation and if one makes attempts to control the expression the individual activates both systems and , thus, he or she is engaged in a neural “tug of war” , therefore, overcontrol allows the quick, fleeting leakage of microexpressions. Microexpressions occur when an individual attempt to be deceitful about emotional expressions.

Nature of emotion

When you read facial expressions of emotion and especially microexpressions it helps build rapport, trust, and collegiality as these are useful in credibility assessments, knowing about truthfulness, and detecting deception ; and right information about emotional states paves the way for basis of good cooperation, negotiation, or sales. These help health professionals, teachers,administrators, business people, and negotiators. Besides, product researchers of consumer`s emotions, parents, spouses, friends, and everyone with the interest in building strong and constructive relationships may take advantage from improving their ability to read emotions. Moreover, individuals often get emotional when they lie due in course to the fear of getting caught, guilt, or shame about the things lied successfully or while lying to others e.g. law enforcement, national security, intelligence, or legal system. Nature of emotion including facial expressions and microexpressions plus other nonverbal behaviors for instance voice, gesture, gaze, and posture, and the nature of truth telling and lying put forward nonverbal signals associated with both. Subtle expressions, meaning thereby, difficult to perceive or describe because fine or delicate nature, or quick and clever at seeing or making delicate differences, or sensitive, ingenious, and complex may be handled with caution

Emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence is the ability to monitor one’s own and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different emotions and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior. Now, mainly four proposed abilities: perceiving, using, understanding, and managing emotions are in practice. Emotional intelligence, the power of seeing, learning, understanding, and knowing the excitement of the mind or more usually feelings, is not only the intelligence done on emotions of others but on the emotions of oneself. It is strong feeling of any kind or excited state of the mind that enables one to look into oneself and note what it is that gives rise to strong feeling or excited state. Binet emphasized reasoning, imagination, insight, judgement, and adaptability as mental processes involved in intelligent behavior. Intelligence is the ability to utilize abstract concepts effectively or to meet and adapt to novel situations quickly and effectively.

If an individual who is capable to elicit a response revealing the truth/emotion not very cleverly but intelligently with the aid of word that touches deep inside may become a manager/leader. Over all to above, empathy takes into account accurate, authentic, or understanding response that is the outcome of careful and exact judgement of facial expressions. It must be genuine, beyond doubt, and known to be true. Understanding or realizing other person’s feelings or points of view having or showing insights makes a difference between immediate thought and an intelligent inference. Empathy is the ability to understand and to some extent share the state of mind of another person. While compassion is pity, or feeling for the sufferings of others, prompting one to give help.

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Emotional vocabulary

Emotional intelligence depends upon the words that tell about emotions or are very close in expression of emotion for instance water in eyes means tears or jumping in joy due to elation. It is a mirror image of oneself that could give meaning in one’s life If one detects the exact terms from emotional vocabulary for facial expressions. One must have a strong emotional vocabulary. For instance one should know the difference between feeling “down” and feeling “irritable” or “anxious”. According to City Journal, “The key to increasing upward mobility is expanding vocabulary”. Studies have solidly established the correlation between vocabulary and real – world ability. Why should vocabulary size be related to achieved intelligence and real – world. It is competence. There are currently several models of EI. The controversy in EQ and IQ is meaningless as intellect, power of the mind to reason, is contrasted with feeling and instinct. IQ, in general, does not take into account feeling and instinct while EQ is based on these two. Emotional intelligence may adapt the rule of IQ only on the part of a consultant.

Curiosity expands empathy

Curiosity being curious ( in a good sense ) eager (to learn or know) or meddlesome, having or showing too much interest in the affairs of others. That’s why, empathy is the ability to share the state of mind of another person. If you are curious about other people those who are new to your place you may provide help and support. Curiosity is the tendency to explore, to investigate, and to seek knowledge. It is regarded by some psychologists as one of the primary drives, along with sex, hunger, thirst, etc. Curiosities about things that are strange, unusual, or rare objects hard to understand lead toward some experts in the field. A curious person who is showing the result of care and attention manifests emotional intelligence. Curiosity expands empathy up to the extent of projecting oneself into (and so fully understanding, and losing one’s identity in) a work of art or other object of contemplation. As a result of that an accurate, authentic, or understanding response emerges.

Environment and memory

Emotionally-neutral words help an individual only when he or she gets to know what upsets him or her. Emotional intelligence, from wikipedia, is the capability of individuals to recognize their own emotions and those of others, discern between different feelings and label them appropriately, use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior, and manage or adjust emotions to adapt to environments or achieve one’s goal(s). Environmental psychology is the field of psychology focusing on the effects of environmental setting on an individual’s feelings and behavior. From wikipedia,”The field defines the term environment broadly, encompassing natural environments, social settings, built environments, learning environments, and information environments.” Search environment, memory, and everything around them to find out why that means the reason for mood swings. As mentioned in wikipedia,” Memory is the faculty of the mind by which information is encoded, stored, and retrieved when needed. Memory is vital to experiences and related to limbic systems. It is the retention of information over time for the purpose of influencing future action”. The “built environment” of homes, offices, and cities may be helpful.

A person’s character

You are a good judge of character. Character is a consistent and enduring property or quality by means of which a person, object, or event can be identified. It is the character trait, a relatively consistent and persistent form of behaviour as viewed from the moral or ethical point of view, that cannot be limited to one or two. Being able to identify others` emotions, needs, and intentions one can come in terms with working memory as how to determine a person’s character.In this context, it is pertinent to mention,” What is emotional blackmail or what are the drawbacks, setbacks, or shortcomings due to what reasons. Besides, character is subjected to various things that may not be true.”One may look straight into the eyes of another person or self. An eyeball to eyeball contact is also helpful.Character is characteristic of one. It’s what people would expect him or her to do, because of his or her character. In/out of character, appropriate/inappropriate to the actions, etc., known to be in accord with a person’s character, is also important.

Negative energy

One tends not to hold grudges. Holding grudges means holding on to a lot of negative energy. Grudge is a strong feeling of anger and dislike for a person who the individual feels has treated one`s self badly, especially one that lasts for a long time. According to Psychology today,”These people are not isolated examples or peculiar in any way. Many people hold grudges, deep ones, that can last a lifetime. Many are unable to let go of the anger they feel toward those who “wronged” them in the past, even though they may have a strong desire and put in a concerted effort to do so.”As a matter of fact the setbacks lie in the meaning of grudge. It is -be unwilling to give or allow or feeling of ill-will, resentment, envy or spite (desire to cause pain or damage). There is importance of the meaning of a word. It is well-explained in psychology today,”Why do we hold grudges when they are in, in fact, quite painful to maintain, and often seem to work against what we really want ? Why do we keep wounds open and active, living in past experiences of pain which prevent new experiences from being able to happen ? What keeps us stuck when we want to move on and let go ? How can we let go ?

Perfect leader

You are a great leader. They possess the ability to empathise, identify others` emotions and control their own emotions make them perfect leader. Individual attributes are motive, values, social skills, expertise, and problem-solving skills. Leader is a person who guides. From wikipedia,”Sanskrit literature identifies ten types of leaders. Defining characteristics of the ten types of leaders are explained with examples from history and mythology.

Leadership is a matter of intelligence, trustworthiness, humaneness, courage, and discipline. When one has all five virtues together, each appropriate to its function, then one can be a leader. The search for the characteristics or traits of leaders has continued for centuries. Leadership researchers revealed the following:

  1. Individuals can and do emerge as leaders across a variety of situations and tasks.
  2. Significant relationships exist between leadership emergence and such individual traits as:

Intelligence, adjustment, extraversion, conscientiousness, openness to experience, general self-efficacy.

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